Motherhood

I heard my name, it was uttered loud and clear, yet I still had a moment of hesitation. It had finally arrived- the culminating moment that solidified what seemed to be an endless amount of years of hard work and sacrifice (It was seven years to be exact). I had gotten married and birthed two babies in the time it took to earn my Bachelor’s degree. Funnily enough, most of my peers still couldn’t even do their own laundry. Most people would say of me graduating, “Oh wow! Good for her!” This sort of patronizing comment really peeved me. It was as if I was discounted the moment I decided to become a mother. Why was it that my achievement of graduating was celebrated as if I had just won a Nobel prize? It is because no one had actually expected me to finish.

During college, professors would ask me, “What do you think you can do after you graduate?” or “Are you looking for jobs or graduate schools nearby?” I know it may seem like these are normal or harmless questions, but for me, they were life-changing. Unfortunately, I knew I did not have the same opportunities as other graduates. It was becoming glaringly obvious that I was to be locked in a vortex of mediocrity and obligation for the rest of time. All of my hard work seemed like it had been in vain. Why couldn’t I go to grad school on the other side of the country or accept a job in Europe? It was as if my future was already planned out for me and I quickly began to feel resentful. It wasn’t until after I had graduated and started to consider jobs and that I realized how truly lucky I was.

Nothing about my situation had limited me. In actuality, it had given me a gift. I was allowed the space I needed to clear my mind and realize what I genuinely aspired to do, which was write. Part of me wonders what life would be like now if I hadn’t had children so young or if I had chosen to go the more traditional route. Sure I may have felt more successful, but would I be sincerely happy? Something tells me that if I had to answer that question, I would say no. In the end, I had a realization- society may have taught me that success is measured in money, but my life experiences have taught me otherwise.  

Even though I always knew I would get my degree, it wasn’t something that was easy, because life happened. Moreover, no one can anticipate  all of the hardships that come after receiving the degree. In the end, no one has it easy. There will always be obstacles in the way whether it is children, relationships, income, or circumstances. We all have own our sets of challenges. The important thing to remember is to lead your own life in your own way. Most of all, the next time you hit a bump in the road, stop, pull over, and think. You may just save yourself.

Hey Everyone! Hope you are having a great week so far!  We have been working around the house, still trying to get settled in. Yesterday I was playing with the baby and realized something that I don’t let him do as much as I did my older boys– crafts. I admit, it is exhausting to […]

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Hello everyone! How is your weekend so far? I started my morning off cleaning (per usual) and working out. Both things seem routine; however, I found myself cleaning an unusual mess this morning and felt the need to blog about it. My kids- three boys- are constantly making messes. I long for the days when […]

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What is the hardest part about being a mom? This is an age old question and I can’t say that I know the answer for sure. Some may say that it is always having to be in tune with the needs of your child- whether they are one, eleven, or one-hundred and eleven. Children are […]

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Summer is coming to an end and I cannot believe how fast it has flown by. My family and I have had the best time, although it has not been without its up’s and down’s. For some reason I always feel so nostalgic during the summer. It takes me back to my days in the […]

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Have you ever tried working out but you just keep getting distracted? Whether it be at the gym or at home, I can always find reasons not to finish a workout. The biggest distraction for me, at home, are my kids. It’s almost a joke. I tell everyone, “I’m going to workout now!” and almost instantaneously everyone […]

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Okay so if you know anything about me, it’s that I don’t think that life stops because you have kids. It definitely slows down for sure (or at least I hope so). I am a young mommy and have always been a straight arrow kind of person. I always follow the rules, but one thing […]

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No one told me how hard it is to be a mom…. SIKE! Everyone told me how hard it was going to be. Those warnings didn’t stop after my first child either. Nope. Then it became “Oh two is much harder than just one. Going from one to two is way harder than just having […]

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Yesterday my middle son Rex woke up from his nap and brought me a book to read to him. I almost (literally) jumped for joy. It’s rare that any of my children choose to read a book over playing with the ipad, watching tv, or any other activity for that matter. My husband and I have […]

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I love being a mom. My kids are three of my favorite accomplishments. Every time someone comments on how great they are I smile a huge smile and say, “thank you.” It sort of seems silly at first to take credit for someone else, but as time goes by I have learned to accept that […]

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